Dating is like life, and life is like a box of chocolates: You never know what you’re going to get. For some, dating quickly leads to marriage and that marriage lasts forever. Others aren’t so lucky as to have gotten it right on the first try. But if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. A divorce is not and should not be the end of your love story. Instead of dwelling on “time wasted,” view your split as a chance to learn, grow and to move toward your happiness. Below are some significant growth points that you should strive to take from your divorce:
Don’t Be so Hard on Yourself
Beating yourself up will get you nowhere. Instead, take care of yourself by understanding that you are probably feeling more emotional than usual. As long as you own it, people are more apt to forgive you — including yourself.
That being said, don’t ignore or dismiss your feelings. Speak up in a relationship, even if you find it uncomfortable to do so. Communicating your wants, needs, and desires are key for successful relationships.
Don’t Invest More in Someone than They are Willing to Invest in You
Everyone’s heard this piece of valuable advice, but very few people actually follow. A relationship is a two-way street and unless you are both sharing the road, so to speak, there will almost always be a wreck.
Actions Speak Louder than Words
Simply saying that you are ready to settle down means nothing until you actually make strides to do so. Part of being in a successful relationship is making commitment and standing by that commitment 100%. Don’t waste your time with 65 or 70% of a relationship.
It Will All Work Out in the End
No matter what you’ve been through or what you’re going through, it will all work itself out exactly how (and exactly when) it’s supposed to. Trust your instincts, keep drilling down what you want to create your own happiness, and learn to recognize the signs of what you don’t want sooner rather than later.
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