Dating Advice: 5 Things To Avoid Doing on Your First Date


There's nothing like a first date: the anticipation, the excitement . . . and, of course, the nervousness. You want to put your best foot forward and make a good first impression, and you don't want to say or do anything that will scare your date off. Here are five things you should definitely avoid doing if you want that first date to turn into a second date, and hopefully a long-term relationship.

  • 1. Being nervous

Yes, being nervous is normal; but try and relax! You get to go out and spend some time getting to know someone new, hopefully while doing something fun. You won't enjoy the date, or the person you're with, if you're too nervous.


photo by Freddie Peña

  • 2. Being cheap

We're not saying you have to go out and break the bank on your first date; but nothing ruins dating like the feeling that you have to watch every single penny you're spending. It won't kill you to loosen up a bit on the budget for one night.

  • 3. Talking about your ex

There's nothing worse than the feeling you're being compared to someone else, especially when that person is your date's ex. A first date is an opportunity for someone to get to know YOU, not your ex -- so it's best to avoid talking about past relationships.

  • 4. Pretending you're something you're not

If you hate Mexican food, don't agree to a first date at a Mexican restaurant because it's your date's favorite. Even worse, don't lie and say it's your favorite as well. Not only will you guarantee yourself a miserable time, but the truth will eventually come out and you'll seem like a dishonest person. Just be yourself, and if your date can't appreciate you for who you are, it's their loss. You don't want to be with someone like that anyway.

  • 5. Expecting too much

Maybe your date will turn out to be your soulmate, your future spouse, and everything you've always dreamed of. But maybe not. If you go into the first date with such high expectations, you'll probably only end up disappointed when the person you're seeing doesn't live up to them.

What else do you think a person should avoid doing on a first date?

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